Community Safe House – are they always safe?

While walking home with my 3 kids last week, my eldest pointed at the house we were infront of and told me if she was ever lost or in trouble she was told to find a house with the “safe house” sign on it, and those people will help.

Now looking at the house there were 3 men sitting on the balcony laughing, & smoking, there were old fridges & car parts on the lawn and the sign was faded obvious it was attached onto the letter box years or maybe decades ago.

It got me a little frightened how my 7 year old would think this house was safe just because of the faded Community Safe House sign on it.

I would love to know, do these Safe House get updated each time a new tenant moves in? Are there any fines for houses who display these Safe House even if they havent been registered as a Safe house? 

dont care what anyone says,in my books its CHILD ABUSE

We went out for dinner & coffee with another family over the weekend, everything was great til our meals came. The other families only child refused to eat dinner, ahh well not all kids eat dinner you’d think. What shocked me was when the father order the child dessert (slice of cheesecake) despite him not even touching his meal….fine not all families are as paranoid or strict about what their kids eat or their behaviour in public (his tantrum for cake ).

Our turn to have dessert, I obviously couldnt have any but order 3 mini cupcakes for my kids. This child’s father then order another cheesecake slice for their son. He somehow managed to finish his second cake without his dinner and now was eating his mothers blackforest cake….

We then went to Bondi for coffee, the men left us by the waterside while they bought coffee, hot chocolates for the kids & water for me.

My kids were delighted when they got their warm chocolate milks but the other child didnt want his, instead he wanted the V energy drink in the plastic bag.

So without a second thought, the dad opened the V can and gave it to his 5 year son – WTF?????4

Hubby said why would give him V for, its not good for us let alone a 5 year old child who hasnt even had dinner. The fathers response was “My son is a strong boy, he loves his V and it doesnt affect him at all” then the parents proudly laughed…..

This poor child has a bigger pot belly than my husband, his not outgoing and does not in mine or my husbands opinion look as bubbly or healthy as my kids.

I told the mother the side affect and how his going to be affected not just physically by all the sugar & caffeine but mentally & emotionally growing up with as a big kid.

She also replied his use to and his not like my kids he doesnt know what no means.

Im sorry my kids werent born with the word NO in their vocabulary, while my kids would love to have a glass of Coke, 2 slices of cheesecake, I as the responsible parent have to put my foot down and say NO and explain why its a no.

At one stage I noticed hubby started to get rehooked on coke at dinner, and the kids kept wanting coke or juice so I refused to buy it.

This child is going to start school next year, they dont want to take him to childcare because they dont trust others to look after their kid.

I really hope this kid doesnt get teased for being ‘fat’, he doesnt feel isolated as he cant fit in or notices his bigger then other kids.

When we got home I started crying at the sight of this child, hubby was so furious that he doesnt want to mingle with them any more - it may not be any of our ‘business’ but what I witnessed will affect every parent out there and it maybe harsh but if over eating your child is consider ‘child abuse’ so should a child who “hasnt had a fruit for over 2 weeks”, and has energy drinks when he feels like.

 

Honey, Im back….

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Tomorrow is the last day of Ramadan – where exactly did the time go????

We are now preparing for Bayram  a.k.a an Islamic ‘Christmas’ so to speak – well thats how we explaining it to our kids.

Tomorrow im decorating the house and making 3 different Turkish sweets and hubby will be happy to know i’ll be making his favourite Baklava and Revani….woohoo. Im also going to make a few other pastry foods for breakfast.

My son is out of his cast – heres another WOOHOO!!! His not walking , still crawling around but today his stood up on his own!

I have been lurking around online but have kept myself and my blog awfully quiet – just alot going on right now but my energy is having difficulty keeping up.

Cant wait for this week to begin – just want my life back into gear. Its funny I complain about how ‘boring’ my life is – everything is the same but when something disrupts my routine I really do miss my ‘boring’ life.

 

 

Breastfeeding week

 

With my girls I breastfed with top up for only 3 months, in my personal situation admittedly I  gave up early – but with my son I really wanted to breastfeed for atleast 6 months, it wasnt easy in the beginning and I did come close to giving up but after a few months I finally got the ‘technique’ of how to hold him, recognising the signs of satisfied baby, understanding how or what I was feeling emotionally/physically and mentally.

Its World Breastfeeding week (1 August – 7 August)  (WBW) theme, ‘Breastfeeding – It’s Time to Talk‘ – encouraging & acknowledging the importance of all types of communication within the community to continue promoting, protecting  & supporting Breastfeeding.

I received an 3 promo codes this morning, to celebrate World Breastfeeding week for a free Nursing Cover, Baby Carriers & Breast Pads – all you have to pay for is the shipping.

Use Promo Code “Breastfeeding” at Both Websites TODAY! While stocks, styles & colours last.

It’s as easy as 1-2-3!

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3. Once you have made your selection, you’ll automatically be directed to the shopping bag.
Enter the promo code ” Breastfeeding ” and both companies have agreed to deduct 100% of
the cost of the carrier or nursing cover – all you pay are the shipping fees!

Remember: the promo code is ” Breastfeeding ” and you can use it more than once – just open a new browser window each time you do.

Im here!!

There is so much happening in my life right, I do know where it starts, ends or where exactly I am.

My son broke his leg, we have Ramazan next week (also known as Ramadan), theres the school drop offs/pick ups with a broken leg!

But I just wanted to let you know Im still here, I have fallen behind in my posts and will begin updating my blog soon.

Thank you for your get well emails and Jess your right his officially SPOILT.!

 

 

Just come out wont you!!!

Hip has been ‘patiently’ waiting for her top tooth to fall out, it started wiggling about 3 months ago and only recently has her tooth moved.

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Last week an hour after bedtime she came running in tears that her tooth ‘suddenly’ started bleeding….

As mums know best I realized there was more to her story and later found out she’s been punching and banging her mouth to make that damn tooth fall out lol.

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The next day her wobbly tooth was black and bruised lol.

My silly daughter hasnt been eating anything hard, not because shes afraid it may hurt or her tooth will fall out but she wants us to take her to the dentist!!!!!!

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Today we notice the new tooth has shot through and the wobbly tooth has parted quite abit from the gums – but obviously not enough….!!!!

Ive offered to tie a string to her tooth &  the door technique, but she ‘politely’ turned us down….lol

Lifetime of dieting..,.

My first appointment with the surgeon will be on 24/7/2011. Im excited and anxious but Im also proud of myself.

Im proud because im finally doing something for me, im finally investing time, effort & money on me and not on someone else.

Being the softy of the family means Im always running around for mum & dad who dont speak much English, im the legal guardian of my 2 nephews who are from a broken down home, it also means im helping a friend who just moved to Australia with no friends, money and is going through post natal depression. Not to mention I run this household & 3 kids on my own while my husband works fulltime as a truck driver & runs his cafe business during the night.

This year things are changing for the sucker softy me – Im getting my underbite corrected which is why I have braces on for another year. Im also going to be sleeved hopefully in September this year.

I first started dieting when I was 12, I was recommended to start Herbalife – I dont know how it is now but back then I was taking tablets, drinking a black disgusting powder mixed with orange juice and revolting Vanilla milkshake.

I then started Jenny Craig at age 14, I would never forget how humiliated I felt carrying 5 or 6 plastic bags marked “Jenny Craig ” on Saturday mornings.

I then started forcing myself to throw up after each meal at 15 but that didnt last too long as I started going through depression and became suicidal which is when my parents noticed and helped me through a real tough time.

At 17 I met Hubby who made me realise Im a beautiful, young &  a HEALTHY woman and showed me how to accept myself.

At 21 I was diagnosed with PCOS & was told to lose weight or never be able to naturally conceive a child – so I signed up with Sureslim.

I hated the weighing and measuring that was involved with Sureslim. I hated only eating protein and not feeling so good by the end of the day. After spending $800 & losing about 5 kilos I quit Sureslim and shortly after was pregnant that resulted in my first miscarriage.

7 years, 2 miscarriages & 3 healthy babies later I had to lose weight for my brothers wedding. A friend recommended me to start Senovera tablets to suppress my appetite.

Senovera did suppress my appetite, but I noticed I started skipping all meals and surviving only on the 2 slices of toast that I had in the morning. It also started giving me tummy cramps, excess sweating, and finally I experienced my first mini anxiety attack.

I lost 15 kilos within 2 months, I looked great but I started fearing the side affects and stopped Senovera and now im 20 kilos heavier, hate the way I feel & look.

This is all going to change for once and for all when I have my gastric sleeve surgery in September, Deep down I fear it wont solve my emotional eating nor will it help me lose weight.

Its like everything has a side affect even if its 1 in a million, when I think about myself skinny I feel like that 1 in a million side affect will be me.

I cant imagine myself skinny, nor can I believe its going to work but as a promise to myself and as rewarding myself for a lifetime of dieting, tears & failing, I will be sleeved this year.

Hopefully I havent confused anyone with my ramblings as Im typing this post out of emotions, im wiping a tear as I  reveal abit more of myself.

Would love to hear about others who have an emotional eating problem or who have cured their eating habits.

 

 

The perfect Sunday

I use to believe “family time” meant going out, spending heaps of money & being seen by others…. Stupid???? Immature – maybe but I use to try prove to others that we were a happy chappy flawless & inlove couple.

Thank goodness my children taught me differently. Family time doesn’t involve others, it doesn’t cost you & most importantly it’s only about us.

Today was a perfect Sunday, the kids allowed hubby & I to spend quality time together (ehem ehem), hubby prepared my cereal (romantic I know), I enjoyed an uninterrupted 10 min shower.

We cleaned the backyard while the kids played OUTSIDE, then a short bike ride & coffee on the balcony soaking up the sun.

I even had my afternoon nap while hubby prepared salad & BBQ.

Now how do you think we’re going to finish our perfect day?

 

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yup Ferrero Rocher & Downtown Abbey or if hubby has his way then it’s Rambo (romantic much?)

How did spend your perfect Sunday?

how to make homemade yoghurt

no, no nothing to get worried about – this has to be one of the most easiest recipes mum passed down to me. Growing up we always had homemade yoghurt, I think the first time I tried commercial yoghurt was probably when I was 16.

We use to add sugar, honey or jam to our yoghurt and have it for dessert – I even remember mum adding fresh breadcrumbs and feeding it to my then baby nephew.

Besides the money you when you make your own yoghurt is Homemade yogurt contains no artificial additives or preservatives, this recipe doesnt even need Easiyo!

Ingredients

  • 3L full cream milk
  • 4 tablespoons of yoghurt
  • Large bowl & lit to store yoghurt
  • 1-2 bed sheets – lol you’ll find out soon

Directions


Boil the milk til it becomes frothy and about to spill.

Place your empty large yoghurt bowl on top of the bed sheets. During colder weathers you will need 2 sheets.


Remove boiled milk from stove & pour into your large yoghurt bowl. I use my mums old Tupperware which is large enough & fits perfectly in the fridge.

Cool the boiled milk for about 15 minutes, then regularly check the temperature by dipping you pinky into the milk. When the milk is just bareable – so it’s not too hot or cold then it’s ready.

Before adding the cold yoghurt to the boiled milk, you will need to warm the yoghurt up by adding 4 – 8 spoons of the hot milk with the 3 tablespoons of yogurt and mixing it well in a separate bowl.

Slowly pour the the mixed milk/ yoghurt into the large hot milk. It’s best to pour it from the side, using the same side gap mix with a wooden spoon mix the bottom of the hot milk – but mix with care so you dont disrupt the frothy/ skin floating on top.

Close the lid, wrap the the yoghurt tightly with the sheets & leave over night to set.

Note: sometimes I forget about the cooling the milk, so I reheat the  milk in the microwave without using the same bowl.

Sometimes the yoghurt may not set  - don’t throw it out it means the yoghurt has turned into ricotta cheese (once you drain it).

I don’t add gelatin but if you want your yoghurt to have a thicker consistency you can use gelatin.

Our yoghurt usually lasts between up to 3 months – depending on how often we eat it and only costs us $3 using Homebrand milk.

 

Mum, do you know how to……….

Hip is in year one this year and is now into hand-stands, cartwheels & everything I cant do. Im one of those mean mums who teach their kids that mum always knows best, mum sees all & hears all – and most importantly there isnt anything mum cant do.

How was I suppose to know “mum can do anything” would mean one day mum would be asked to ‘prove’ she can do gymnastics.

Tonight was that night – Hip was trying her typical handstand moves and asked me to show her how to do a Handstand – I got away with it by saying “not now sweetheart, mums wrist hurts.

She then asked me to do a cartwheel, I answered “there isnt enough space in this room hunny”……phew got away with that one…..

Finally, just when I thought I was in the clear, she asked me to do a backward roll – I thought…yea ofcourse how hard could that be…so I lay on the ground and rolled….

She screamed “no mum thats rolling side ways, you have to lye on your back, bring your bum up and flip over backwards”….WTF ??? – I was stuck….so I finally confessed that I couldnt do a handstand, cartwheel or any gymnastic action, that I always envied the girls that could at school but I just couldnt do it – because I was fat, I had the fear that I would break a bone or something if I didnt land properly.

Hip tried to teach me to do a handstand and this time I didnt fear it but thought there was no way on earth my hands would be able to carry my butt in the air plus with gravity working against my boobs – it wouldnt be much of a pretty site…BUT I tried it anyhow….

your probably wondering if I did it?

………………….

 

nope – but I did manage to knock 2 perfume bottles sitting on the dresser and hit my ankles on the corner…..OUCH!!!